Your Second Becoming

There’s this quiet shift that happens when you start telling the truth to yourself.

Not the kind of truth you post on Instagram or say to keep the peace— but the real truth. The kind that sits in your gut and keeps tapping you on the shoulder until you finally stop pretending not to hear it.

For me, that truth was this:

I’m done living a life that isn’t fully mine.

I’m done people-pleasing, overthinking, over-functioning, and calling it love.

I’m ready to build something that feels like home.

Somewhere around your mid-30’s, the world gets quieter— and your thoughts get louder.

You start asking questions you didn’t have time for in your 20s.

Questions like:

• Do I even want the life I’m building?

• Is this career still aligned with who I’m becoming?

• Am I running out of time to start a family— or do I even want one?

• If I’m not that version of myself anymore, who am I now?

This is what I call the Second Becoming— that sacred, confusing, often lonely season where you’re no longer who you were, but not yet fully the woman you’re becoming.

It’s raw. It’s tender.

And if you’re not careful, it’s a season that can slip by unnoticed— because it doesn’t always look like a breakdown.

Sometimes it looks like quiet dissatisfaction.

Or a deep, aching restlessness.

Or just the realization that “this life” is comfortable or looks good on paper, but doesn’t feel good in your body.

I’ve been walking that edge for a while now.

Letting go of old ways of coping, like partying, disappearing into relationships, or trying to prove my worth by how accommodating I could be.

I’ve been untangling myself from the identity of “the cool, easy girl” who never asks for too much.

I’ve been grieving the friendships and versions of myself I’ve outgrown.

I’ve been learning how to live for me.

And out of that season, something beautiful is emerging:

A new calling. A new rhythm. A new way of showing up in the world.

I’m stepping into my work as an Alignment Coach—

I’m here for the women in their 30s and 40s who feel like they’re standing at a blurry crossroads.

The women quietly questioning their path, their timing, their desires.

The ones who’ve outgrown the noise and are ready to live with more intention, alignment, and clarity— even if it means letting go of a lifetime of people pleasing patterns and running on emotional autopilot.

This work—this calling—isn’t about reinventing yourself.

It’s about remembering who you were before the world told you who to be.

It’s about finding clarity in the confusion and making space for the life you actually want.

It’s about choosing your next chapter or purpose, and it’s never too late.

I’ve created a coaching practice called Your Second Becoming— a collective for women who are ready to reclaim their power, set boundaries without guilt, and make the next part of their life the most honest and aligned yet.

I don’t know exactly where this path will lead, but I feel it in my bones:

This is my purpose.

This is why the detours happened.

This is my becoming— and I want to walk alongside you in yours.

We don’t need to have it all figured out to start.

We just need to be brave enough to dive deeper and begin.